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#18 Fill Your Own Cup

“Hey Babe, have you taken your vitamins?” my boyfriend asked me in his effort to be helpful.  I realized I had not taken my vitamins since . . . well since 4 days ago. I had not even thought about them.

The interesting thing is that my son also takes certain vitamins, supplements and medicines every single day. His case of vitamins sits on the counter right next to my case of vitamins. Every morning without fail, I will mix his juice and give him his vitamins, supplements and medications. Sometimes I will stand right over him and put them in his mouth to make sure he takes them because his health and welfare are important to me. I have to wonder, why it is that I won’t do the same for myself. My vitamins are right there, right next to his and yet I let 4 days go by I don’t even think about it.

I wonder if you can relate to this especially if you are a woman. I know this can apply to the men too, but for women… this is traditionally our area. When it comes to nurturing and taking care of others, we are right there; making sure that our families, our friends and our communities are well taken care of. But what about taking care of ourselves? We have to remember that if we don’t take care of ourselves, there will be no one to take care of our families, our friends or our communities.

Motivational speaker and author, Iyanla Vanzant says “fill your own cup first and then help others from the overflow.”
 Too often we get that backwards, we get it twisted. We start helping everybody else and not filling our own cup. We are helping others from a half empty cup that is not being refilled. That is no way to live. If we want to succeed, if we really want to help our families, if we want to achieve remarkable, we need to take care of ourselves first, we have to fill up our own cups.

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